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Sunday, August 28, 2005

say with me.... " floooowweeeerrrr!"

"Orchid"

Sounds familiar?

Well, its picked up from a famous adverts. Still can't remember? Aiyah, its the one where a father pointed to a white orchid and asked his child to pronounce flower, but instead, being fed the best milk formula, she pronounce the word orchid.

Well, i think anxiety has set me going berzerk and my sensitivity has overtaken my usual daily toll. Imagine, I was a bit perturbed since yesterday, when my baby does not respond to my calling and reading a story from a book.

Wat have I done to deserve this treatment? The coldness and ignorance after several calls and rubbing. My baby has never done this to me. Normally, he would at least moved or nudge if she hears my voice or feels my hand rubbing. I would then play with her hide and seek. Rampant movement is all i need other than kicking and nudging.

But yesterday, she just went numb and ignore me.

Gosh! The deep cut that causes wide gash could no longer be stopped and I can no longer keep shut bout it. How in the world can any father felt when his child ignore him. After showering with love and tender loving feeling, all u could asked for is just a little smile.

Now I can relate to many advices that my dad used to give me, when I m stubborn or when i gave both my parents that face - one that u would slap. Being a parent myself, would give me great privillages to experience it. I do regret of the wrongs that I'd done. Imagine. I've yet to see my baby being born or the hardship that my wife going thru during labour.

I guess my anxiety and sensitivity has made me to have cold feet, to face the reality that its only left few weeks before I can meet him/her in person.

To tell u the truth, I m all excited to have her in my arms and to hold him for the first time. I could never tell wifey straight of wat I m feeling deep inside. Fellow fathers has relate their experiences of watching their wife giving birth. Repent. Thats wat most says.

Scared seh! I really wonder wat I would feel seeing my wife in pain and yet, i can't lift a single thing to lift the pain.

So, wifey, if u think that u r the only one feeling excited, sensitive, scared, anxiety and many more mixed feelings, i think, u r not alone. I m having the same feelings too....

.... brrrrr.....

Tuesday, August 23, 2005

u got it wrong...

Wifey>> This entry is a protest to my hubby's earlier post(gerlfren material?,wife material?).I dun agree wif u when u said that there is such a thing as a difference between gerlfren material n wife material.Sorry to dissapoint you darling,but that's juz men's perception.Such a thing doesn't exists...You men juz created that in your shallow imagination.

A woman can be anything she wants.We dun need men to judge whether we're gelfren or wife material.There is no definition on what type we should be.You can accept us as who we r or move along.Every women is unique or special in their own way.What one man may define as 'trash' is actually treasure to another.This is wat we call 'Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder'.We give love back to men who loves us n we respect men who respects us.It's not for u men to decide which among us women r gelfren material or wife material coz we choose how to live our life.

A woman knows wat she wants when she wants it.She doesn't need a man to tell her how she leads her life.She can be a gerlfren,wife,slut, intelligent, sexy, smart, ugly all at once,but only for the right man.

And a woman hates this statement..
" The inferior complex of a gerl has placed them as a homemaker instead of a ruler"

Who said a woman can't be a ruler??????

A woman can be a ruler coz she straightens her man's life..
She can be an eraser when she erases her man's pain with her tender loving care...
She's a 'Parker pen' who helps her man dictates his future...

See? A woman can be anything she wants! Anything!




p.s: hubby,i didnt marry you bcoz u r 'husband material'.I married u coz we have this mutual understanding.....(sing with me.[barney tune])...'I LOVE U....U LOVE ME....

Monday, August 22, 2005

Coming Up! A feminist comments on how women feels and are treated! Keep yourself posted....








brought to you by...


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During my night shift, wifey and me were bickering about wat a father would do for his child. She actually insisted that I would sing Barney's Theme song on the phone.


"I love you, you love me
We are happy family..."
It's not that I wouldt sing it, but, firstly I hate that purple dinosour and secondly, wouldnt it bring down that heavily humongous ego to sing that kiddish song thru the phone? Wat would my colleagues think should they hear me singing that song? They she brought out a topic that we like to debate. To wat extend would a father do to his child?
Come to think of it, I am not yet a father material and wat my dad had did for me, tells me that a father would do all it takes to make his child happy. To all extend.
If thats the case, am I capable to do all that my dad did? Feed the family, teach his kids, all the religious rites and all the "let me do it", and at the same time, he got his own time with frens for fishing every weekend. If I can't sing a simple song, would I be able to lift up the heavy burden of raising a child when he's born? How am I able to stand behind him and at the same time tends to my other worldly needs?
One thing that i believe is that, when the time comes, I would naturally convert my lifestyle. However, I must say that I would still love to lounge with frens for 70 cents cup of coffee and talk bout how life pass us by. I dun think that I would wannabe like my dad. For my child, I would bring her along. In time, he would be able to recognise my frens and began to respect and treat them like how I am.
But, wouldn't it cultivate wat the Malays term as "budaya lepak" in him? Well, I think it all depends actually. If the motive is right, my child would know the difference between wasting her time doing nothing and spending precious time with frens.
I wouldn't be overly protective towards her either. I think, time has changed and kids need to be more responsible and independant since they were young. Unlike the time when shool children carry "beg melabur", children nowadays has to stand on their own believes. No longer spoon fed by parents. Even the curriculum has changed.
Changes has worry me and I am now scared to wat the future would bring for my children and grandchildren. Only time would tell if I can be a good father or otherwise....

Saturday, August 20, 2005

If I am invisible....



What'cha doing tonight?
I wish I could be
A fly on your wall
Are you really alone
You're stealing my dreams
Why can't I dream you into my life?
What would it take to make you see
That I'm alive?

If I was invisible
Then I could just watch you in your room
If I was invincible
I'd make you mine tonight
If hearts were unbreakable
Then I could just tell you where I stand
I would be the smartest man
If I was invisible
Wait--I already am

Saw your face in the crowd
I call out your name
You don't hear a sound
I keep tracing your steps
Each move that you make
Wish I could read
What goes through your mind (oh, baby)
Wish you could touch me
With the colors of your life

I'd make you mine tonight
(Invisible)
I'd make you mine tonight

I reach out
But you don't even see me
Even when I scream out
Baby, you don't hear me
I am nothing without you
Just a shadow passing through
If I was invisible
Then I could just watch you in your room
If I was invincible
I'd make you mine tonight
If hearts were unbreakable
Then I could just tell you where I stand
I would be the smartest man
If I was invisible
I'd make you mine tonight
(If I was invisible)
I'd make you mine tonight
(If I was invisible)...
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When I was a teenager, I must say that I am the quiet sort. I dun talk much and I dun give a damn bout things around me. I was one of the hearthob (ehem), but I am more quiet in person. I m not the chatty me then. Though I knew all of the students, I am more reserved to ones that I m comfortable with.
After school, we would be chatting at the void deck with a stick of cigarettes bought from the mama shop for 30 cents. One stick per day. On saturday, I would be out with my gerlfren and will be chatting at one the most quieter blocks or date to town. Hmmm.... that was the only exciting thing bout school, other than fights and occasional tea dance.
After 'O' level, I m more mindstream. I mixed with many people and whilst the money last till the next pay date, I would be out at nights enjoying life. I never knew much that such life would be a miserable thing in years to come.
When I started my career as a "security officer", I am more down to earth. I can see bout wat life should be. Life taught me to be kind and to balance the good and bad. I no longer become the reserved person and began to be more boisterous.
At times, I feel like I was put in the limelight when I am not actually seeking it. Deep inside me, I was just the same reserved shy person that I was. In me, I still have that respect for others and at times, I am still being step upon.
But, I've learned to stand tall and defend myself. I've learned that if people can voice out their opinion, why not me? I dun have to give a damn whether my opinion is accepted. All I want is for people to listen to it and make their own decision.
I feel that I am just a contributor and not someone who force anyone to accept things blindly. I wanna be a leader with heart and not one with just brain. I like to set aside things and planned the future in long term wise. Some might say that I am catious, but to me, I am taking precaution in case there is a need for plan B.
I began to think a lot. No matter wat I do, i would began to think wat will happen in years to cum, should I continue doing it. u might call it being mature. All I can see is that now, I got family to think about. I got good frens to consider. I got A, B, C and D to set and loved, not forgetting E, F and G.
Life is full of its ups and downs. If u should fall, retraced back ur steps and try again. Stop being invisible, cos trust me, no one will ever listen to you...

Wednesday, August 17, 2005

My post this time may require a lot of comment and your point of views. Especially to certain points that you be offended or would like to debate on.

For once, I wanna chat about human beings and their characters. As we all adults know, there are many different types of people in this world. The fat, thin, bold, vain, rich, braggers and many many more.

Exclusively today, I wanna talk about the cute petite creature - gerls.
One that a man can't live with and can't live without...

Gerls has been around since before the prehistoric time. Almost the same time as the men. The inferior complex of a gerl has placed them as a homemaker instead of a ruler. For those men, who respect a woman, they would understand and see, that there are no boundaries or limits that sets these gerls firmly grounded.

However, there are other categories that sub-divide gerls and separates them. To name a few, intelligent woman, sexy, smart, ugly, blondie, slut and more. Wat trigger men most are the confusion of choosing the right woman to fill up their lives. For this category, I wanna highlights on 2 important sub-categories that all men should know and all gerls to adhere to...

There is this thin grey lines that overshadow this categories. It may be vague but I will leave it up to you people to actually come up with your own view.

The 2 catagories that all "c*ck standing" male should see are :
1) gerlfren material;
2) wife material.

Gerlfren Material

These gerls are the most commonly found along the five foot way to your neighbourhood shop. You can't single them out, but you can definitely point to one if you see them. The smell of a gerlfren material gerls just lingers as you walked past them. believe me! You can't go wrong!

the traits:

From my observation and surveys, I found out that most guys will try to avaoid the gerlfren material once they had stabalized mentally and financially.
The main reason is that, they do not feel secure and there is no ultimate certainty to the future.
These gerls would not make any definite plans
to make u see the future. The sense of security is lesser. As time goes by, they would be compalcent and make men as a place for good fun companionship.
Men can easily identify them when they meet one, as at the end of the day, when its time to return home, they can see where their home is.
Either to the one that they love or to the one that loves them.

Wife Material

Hmmm... I'm expert at this. Look at how happy I am. Blooming at all sides. Hah!
Anyway, this is not sole from my view. I share the same sentiments as other married man and even some single guys too...

the traits :

Wife material are those ladis that when you meet them, you will be truck by their internal beauty, apart from the physical attraction. These gerls will in turn sweep them off their feet and bring heaven to his feet. She will also bring snow to the Sahara desert.
Respectful and command respect, these gerls will surely be a highlight to the event.
She is worth the second look. That demure gerl at the corner that hides her giggling with that warm, approachable smile. That sweet creature that potray your dreams and future.
Who says that only the fortune teller can read predictions?

Tuesday, August 16, 2005

Handphones, mobile, cellphones or watever u might call it. Why does it really matter to people whether it existed or not? Are we really dependant on it or is it such a fad that one day, we might just forget about it? Well, if it is a fad, then why do the producers, producing a more advanced phones like a 3G phones? With a promise that 4G phones on the way, then, I think that it is absolutely not a passing craze.

Each day, it took about averagely 35 sms and 10 mins of calling. For every 15 minutes, you would check your phone for missed calls or just check for numbers. The minute that you open your eyes, you speant about 2hrs and 13 minutes on the phone.

In our daily life, we would hogged on the phone and treating it like the mercy goddess. Has mobile has really chnged our lifestyle? Has it been our daily routine or has it really become our second external memory bank? In Singapore, 97.6% of us are holding on to handphones. 2.4% are the housewives and old folkers or those who still owe the 3 providers bills [heheheh!!!] and can't further subscribe.

Out of this minor figure 0.6% had held onto a top-up card, owned a phone and manage to retrieve only a small number of smses.

Eversince its invention, people are getting more lazy to think, move and we are "lazier" to even memorize. In a long term, people will have difficulty in hearing. But all this is easier said then done.

Can you ever imagine living a life without any handphones? heheheh! I can't....

I really wonder why such gadget are so addictive. Not that I changed my phone every now and then, but addictive to its sight. To me, a day without my handphone, I'll be lost. Hehehe! No, its not that I have a GPRS system in my phone and I dun lose my way easily, but, lost in a sence of feeling direction. My pocket is lighter and so is my hand. I need to exercise my thumb too, u know....

One of these days, I wanna try and be apart from my handphone. Lets say a year. I wanna see how it is being back to basic. But till then, just answer that damn phone....

Sunday, August 14, 2005

September Ends...

This music video dedicated especially to my lovely sis, Hallie. Hey, it warms my heart to see u getting married in 3 weeks time. You really do not know how I feel, I m trying not to be too mushy here, but I m glad and sad at the same time. For all the time that I'd spent my days with you, it never fails for me to feel excited knowing that you will be a woman soon.

there are days that i just cant forget. days which bring back the past memories. i really wish that we can go back to the old time. now that you will be the true woman like you are meant to be, i just wish for your happiness and that one day you will understand how it is to be a mother. for all the time that we are together, I love you.

Gosh! The last time that I blogged was national day. Been lazy lately. I had some post actually that needed to be vetted before publishing. Those are for days when morning doesnt meet night. For now, I wanna talk bout relationship - marriage.

Last night, I had this conversation with wifey. We had our dinner at the buble's (pronounce as bubley) place. Exchanging views and talked bout how we spend our days. Catching up is so hard to do when our shift clashes. We were just chatting when we had this interesting topic that just arises.

I mentioned a topic that someone had in view of marriage. Differences in a wife's and a husband's point of view. This may not apply to you guys, but I do agree with her with this. She wat telling me that for a wife, husband is the utmost priority. Though she has friends, husband still comes in their thought first before the rest.

Unlike wives, husbands do give the priority sake for women, but a friend is still there and should be there. Hmmm..... somehow or rather, this doesnt sound right.

Let me explain. I think, from a wives perspective, they see their husband as a priority to serve and satied. Eventhough friends are equally important, the "wat if's" is more then "should I". I guess it all changes after marriage.

Wednesday, August 10, 2005

My most unfruitful day. All I did was
Sleep, Sleep and more sleep....

Monday, August 08, 2005

Life's like that...

This post is especially dedicated to the following people.

Zul, Epul, Kahar, Afadz and... myself.

As we have spoken guys. This is a topic that all of us is unable to draw a conclusion to. This is also a topic that everyone has their own minds. No one can deny that there are an optimistic way or pessimistic way looking at this point. This post will tell you guys how I actually look at jealousy. I have not checked either one of your entry before this... Pls bear that in mind.
So, here goes...

Jealousy is a complex human emotion that is provoked by a perceived threat to an exclusive dyadic relationship. Although the emotional experience of jealousy may involve varying degrees of sadness, anger, and anxiety, many psychologists have defined it globally as the sense of "distress" or "discomfort" experienced over a partner's real or imagined involvement with another. Jealousy can occur in any type of relationship, but it is most commonly associated with romantic relationships.

Jealous feelings can apply to many types of relationships. There is sibling rivalry where one sibling seems to receive more attention than the other is receiving. Jealousy also exists in the workplace over the achievement of others. The most prevalent jealousy exists in intimate relationships. Think of jealousy as a fire-breathing dragon that lashes out when he or she feels threatened. Jealousy produces bells, sirens and whistles going off, loud enough to wake the jealous dragon. The jealous dragon will no doubt emerge from its dark cave to investigate what the commotion is all about and will react accordingly. You may suspect that your partner is cheating on you or is perhaps entertaining the idea. After close inspection of the situation, the dragon has to determine if this is a false alarm or a true alert.

For instance, you may have witnessed your partner having an innocent conversation with a member of the opposite sex. If you have confidence in yourself and trust that ur relation ship is solid, then you will deem this as a false alarm. This is usually enough to send the dragon back into hibernation. It is only when someone has doubts about themselves or feels that the relationship is a bit shaky, that the act of cheating becomes a real possibility. The jealous dragon then has a tendency to become fully awake.

A true alert indicates that trouble may be brewing for the relationship because someone has left a trail of verifiable clues. Verifiable means you have seen or heard something suspicious with your own eyes or ears. I believe that everyone does experience twinges of jealousy from time to time. For those who are lucky enough to be in a mutually trusting relationship, jealousy lies dormant most of the time. This is especially true if both parties avoid exhibiting behaviors deemed suspicious. Also, in this case both parties make a daily effort to stay connected.

Abnormal jealousy is an emotion resulting in a reaction to unfounded suspicions. It usually takes the form of extreme possessiveness and the need to control your partner every move; even though your mind tells you they are doing nothing wrong. Abnormal jealousy usually stems from a deep-seated fear of rejection and insecurity.

Unfounded jealousy can ruin your life, if it goes unchecked. Because of it, you may push away people you really care about w/out even realizing it. No one enjoys being controlled, manipulated or having to report their every move to you 24/7. Not only is it degrading to the person you are trying to control, but it also indicates what little control you have over yourself. Jealousy eventually takes its toll on everyone involved. It produces mental and physical fatigue, stress and anxiety. Those under your careful watch will soon grow tired of the jealous dragon breathing fire down their neck. All they have to do is look around and observe healthy relationships, working because of mutual trust and respect.

Given the choice, most will choose a healthy trusting relationship over one of constant supervision and jealous reactions of rage and righteous indignation. If you find yourself in jealous situations where your reasons for being jealous are valid and verifiable, you have two choices. You can choose to remain with your cheating partner and work on the relationship together or you can choose to move on. Both choices have their pros and cons and only you can determine which is best for you. In the end, your ultimate goal should be achieving the highest level of love, trust and respect for each other.

To me, it is alright if anyone of the couple has feeling of jealousy. It's perfectly normal. It would be worrying if your partner doesn't. But it has to have its limit in being jealous to your loved ones. I am very sure, that in every normal relationship, jealousy would be minimal, until it came to a point when your partner has betray the trust.

When your trust has been betrayed, a partner will have the inquisitive motion to any of your action. That is when you will have the quesy feeling that your partner is being too possessive and he/she is taking over your life.

The fear of losing someone that you luv is great. To have your trust betrayed is an overwhelming feeling of regret and other mix feelings of hatred, in concoction with many greater fear that wat you have always been having might be missing from you forever. Thus, to still have the person in your life, the only way of showing is by being jealous of him/her. It also means that the trust taht you once had, had diminished.

To regain back the trust is not as simple as saying, " Yes, I've forgive you and let's start all over again." It takes more then just mere words. Proving to your loved ones that her love is an utmost importance and that you have wronged her is a major kindda deal.

A task that was once easy, proving to someone that has her trust betrayed is nothing close to death. Should your loved ones give you a second chance, I think, you should return her love and near with the aftermaths.

Entering a secured place in life is not easy. Especially with a person that is not of your flesh and blood. I wish to state that trust plays an important part to overcome jealousy. If you are bounded by love, then you got to be loyal to elivate your relationship to a cosy den that can only occupy both you and her. When you are there, I bet, jelousy will never be an issue.


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At dead of night, when strangers roam
The streets in search of anyone who’ll take them home
I lie alone, the clock strikes three
And anyone who wanted to could contact me
At dead of night, ’till break of day
Endless thoughts and questions keep me awake
It’s much too late
Where’ve you been?
Who’ve you seen?
You didn’t phone when you said you would!
Do you lie?
Do you try
To keep in touch? you know you could
I’ve tried to see your point of view
But could not hear or see
For jealousyI never knew time passed so slow
I wish I’d never met you, or that I could bear to let you go
At dead of night, ’till break of day
Endless thoughts and questions keep me awake
it's much too late
Where’ve you been?
Who’ve you seen?
You didn’t phone when you said you would!
Do you lie?
Do you try
To keep in touch? you know you could
I’ve tried to see your point of view
But could not hear or see
For jealousy

Where’ve you been?
Who’ve you seen?
You didn’t phone when you said you would!
Do you lie?
Do you tryTo keep in to

uch? you know you could
I’ve tried to see your point of view
But could not hear or see
For jealousy
Where’ve you been?
Who’ve you seen?
You didn’t phone when you said you would!
Do you lie? Do you try
To keep in touch? you know you could
I’ve tried to see your point of view
But could not hear or see
For jealousy
Where’ve you been?
Who’ve you seen?
You didn’t phone when you said you would!
Do you lie?
Do you try
To keep in touch?
you know you could
I’ve tried to see your point of view
But could not hear or see
For jealousy
I never knew ’till I met you

Saturday, August 06, 2005

I can't believe it! For the second out of 3 times, people has dubed me as a kid. Dun they have feelings or cant they just open their bloody eyes! I m going to turn 30 next year and yet they do not take me seiously! Must I keep goatee or have my white hair just so people know that I m gettting older and mature?

I do not see how people can just look at me and say that I look below 20. You thought that I m joking dun you? But that is wat people has been thinking- twice this week alone. Hmmm... maybe the genes, but looking 30 and 20 is absolutely a no, no.

I am really furious this time round! For those who knows me well, I may accept the fact that I dun act 30, but those people who just knew me, dubbing me as under 20 is too much! I wont possibly wear those 'abang' clothing. wearing a shirt to me is like donning sweater in Singapore. Enuff said.

I still cannot take the fact! Gosh!

Why must people still ask for my ic when i buy ciggs...

Well, the answer is... c",)

because I am cute.... *wink

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For Those who wanna quit, here is my advice...



If you've tried to quit before and failed, your chances of success are better...not worse!
Most tobacco users who try to quit don't succeed the first time. With each attempt to quit, you learn something new. The combination of these learning attempts prepares you for the final drive to success.
An idle mind is the playground of the devil.
Successful quitters recognize one important fact. As they begin to slow down their rate of tobacco use, they have more time to fill. If they fill their minds with nothing, the ugly prospect of relapse looms high. That's why successful quitters get busy with hobbies, sports and other activities. When the Marlboro man calls, leave a message...I'm out having a ball. Can't see you today!
Have a "Quit Buddy."
It's better to talk with someone who's experiencing the same set of emotions as you are. We suggest you get one of your friends to quit with you. In addition, the LifeSign program includes a free support telephone line to trained counselors who are ready to listen and talk with you as you go through the program.
Why does your own personal plan of quitting usually fail?
It sounds a little harsh to say that any plan of quitting you come up with yourself is doomed to failure. But this isn't a self-serving statement for the companies that market quit smoking programs. Maybe you've heard tobacco users say they cut down on their own but just couldn't get beyond a certain point. There actually is a very logical reason why "home-grown" quit programs fail. You see, when you start to cut back, which smokes, dips or chews do you eliminate, the ones you enjoy the most? No. You subconsciously cut out the least enjoyable cigarette, dip or chew. And, in this subtle way you actually reinforce your habit. What is needed is a systematic plan such as LifeSign that gradually eliminates tobacco across the board.
Be realistic. Quitting smoking is not easy.
If you've been taken in by the occasional tobacco user who tells you it was a piece of cake to quit, remember you're listening to the exception not the rule. Listen to those that have struggled, learned and won. A good dose of realistic thinking will prepare you to succeed better than anything else.
Smoke, dip or chew at times you DON'T want to.
Even though you've heard that nicotine is one of the strongest addictive drugs, there is hope. There are two sides to your addiction... physical dependence on nicotine and habit. Once you recognize and change those habitual times that you use tobacco you begin to weaken the chains that bind you. This is something the LifeSign program does automatically. You can do it on your own and hasten the day when your habits of smoking are broken.
Adopt a specific quit program... and stick to it.
Once you've made that all important decision, don't allow yourself to waiver... to make exceptions and stir away from the program.
Don't smoke automatically.
Make yourself aware of each cigarette by using the opposite hand or putting cigarettes in an unfamiliar location or a different pocket to break the automatic reach.
Tell the world you're quitting.
Closet quitters aren't successful. Keeping quiet about quitting almost ensures failure... because no one is pulling for you in the biggest challenge of your life. Hold yourself accountable for your commitment by announcing it to your friends, and family. Some even go as far as to make a bet with someone that they can quit. Put your cigarette money aside for every day, and forfeit it if you smoke. Going public like this gets people to join your team... to provide you with the moral support you need.
Quit tobacco the way you started... gradually.
You did not get to the point where you are over night and it is unrealistic to think you can quit overnight. By quitting gradually you learn new coping skills each step of the way.
Start thinking like a non-smoker or chewer.
If inwardly you say you're a tobacco user and always will be, you'll find the thought of quitting a strange one. That's why its effective start rearranging your personal view of yourself. There are some simple things you can do to reverse the process. For example, sit in the non-smoking section of a restaurant and visualize yourself as a non-smoker. These techniques will not automatically convert you from a tobacco user, but they will cultivate a changed internal view of yourself.
Don't be taken in by the "cravings for the rest of your life" trick.
Some tobacco users fear that the strong urges they currently have to smoke or chew will persist for their entire lifetime. Anyone who seriously believes this will hardly want to swim upstream where those strong currents of the urge will push you under. Here's where the application of a simple truth will help. It's the urge, when successfully handled, that makes it easier to cope with the next craving. In short, one success makes the next successful resistance that much easier.
Weight gain is not inevitable.
It is true that there is a 30% change in metabolism when the artificial stimulus of nicotine is removed. However, you can counteract this change and actually lose weight. Just as an athlete overcomes injury by over-compensating, tobacco users should take similar steps to overcome weight gain. Avoid sweets, eat non-caloric health snacks, and begin an exercise program.
Measure your progress against realistic short-term goals.
Imagine a mountain climber who after his first day's effort to climb Mt. Everest despairs... because he didn't reach the peak. This sounds ridiculous, but some smokers fall into a similar trap. Establish short term goals along the way and reward yourself for successful achievements of each phase.
Write down all the reasons you want to quit.
Those who succeed at quitting get specific. And nothing helps so much in this regard as committing your reasons to writing. You might even summarize those reasons on a small card and carry it with you throughout the day.
Testing yourself with the just one cigarette or chew is risky.
Successful quitters tell us something worth noting. Once they quit, they cut loose from any attempt to test themselves to see if they really quit. Keeping a pack of cigarettes and a lighter or a can of snuff on hand "just in case" is dangerous.
Don't fall for the "just one cigarette" or "just one dip" myth.
Research shows that most of the people who smoke or chew "just one more" start again. There's only one safe thing to do, when "just one more" sounds possible, think to yourself: "It's a myth." Play it safe, if you've been successful... stick to it and let your success be as long as your life.
Avoid high risk situations.
Right now make a list of your most common smoking or chewing situation. Then figure out your own plan on how you will avoid these situations. Avoid people who smoke heavily or sit in the non-smoking section of restaurants. Confirm your good habits by avoiding high-risk smoking or chewing situations.
Take non-cigarette breaks.
What was so pleasant about your former cigarette breaks. Smoking was part of it, but there are other trappings of the breaks that you don't have to give up. Enjoy the change of scenery. Talk with others. Just because you are not smoking doesn't mean you can't enjoy the activities associated with the old breaks.
Physical withdrawal symptoms are good!
Sure the withdrawal symptoms are not fun, but look at it this way. These physical manifestations are a sign that your body is beginning to heal itself. As the healing process completes, the pain will go away.
Exercise works like magic.
There is a simple way to ease stress, lose weight and help you to cope with urges. Exercise. You don't need to run a marathon, or go to aerobics class 5 nights a week. Recent evidence indicates that even moderate exercise can be beneficial such as a 10 minute walk three times a week.

Friday, August 05, 2005

When Wats Yours, Aint Yours....

Ever wonder if wat you have been really wanting to keep is actually not yours? Wat if someone can just take it anytime that they like, just because you did not take care of it? I am very sure that you will be fuming hot if its not wat you actually thought it is.

Well, the thought came to me yesterday. I never had such thought and I never had ever imagine that wat I had really had taken care of, wat I had actually feed and wat I had actually love, isn't really belongs to me.

All along, I had given my utmost attention to this precious one and in return, I was presented with wat I tot I deserved. Never had I tot of seeking another nor change to a better one, cos to me, my precious one is the almost perfect creature that anyone could ever had.

When the thought that I was being used, I felt crushed. Why doesn't anyone tell me nor was I warned bout this, before I embarked in this relationship? Doesn't anyone know wat I thought or dun they ever think that they might have been used?

Yesterday, was my turning point. I went to Hougang Mall and get my precious one what she deserve and desires... After forking out $2000. I found out that my little one such a big spender and she is such materialistic taht all that she needs to give her service to me, is for me to spend big on her. I m so furious at that point of time.

Duh, if she is so materialistic, then we got to let her go. I dun wanna be blogged down in sorrow if I have to spend this much on her bi-yearly. Wat more I have to spend quite a sum on her energy food and cosmetics, I still have to add to a sum when I m paying for her lodging and her well being. This does not include her monthly expenditure...

Haiz! I really am in a dilemma of letting her go or just keep her. She is good to me. She took care of me and she drives me around. I cant asked for more from anyone. She is at my beck and call at anytime of the day. In times of emergency or in times of pleasure. She has nice butt and not to mention that every bit of her is made up of strong steel. Sleek body with nice bump at the right places. Everytime I am in her, I feel like I've been raised up to the pedestal. Being in her will give me the luxurious pleasure... awww!
but, she's too much for my pocket...

Let me itemized what she spent per month. Energy food about $350. Cosmetic around $50, lodging came up to about $100 (depends on her hotels), well being includes supplements can cost me about $200 every three months and her monthly expenditure is $730. Every year, she would want $2470 to keep her moving. This is consider as her bonus for being truthful to me...

Arrrggghhh!!! Please help me to decide! IS she worth keeping?
Wanna see her? Scroll down....
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My precious one looking gorgeously as she should...

Well, to tell you the truth, she is aint mine. Owning the Certificate of Entitlement (COE) doesnt make the car belongs to the owner. She is actually being rent out (politically). Monthly, the owner have to make his rent due. No arrears and everytime she passed by an ERP gantry, we ought to pay her entrance. Owning (...or should I call it 'renting') a car in Singapore is very expensive. When I was staying in London, you can own... Yes, I mean own a car, at a price of $5000 and its still in good condition. For a decent usage, it can last you for 5-7 yrs and wats more, petrol is cheaper. In conclusion, wats urs, is ain't urs actually. Stop being the smug that u are. Just because u got a car, it doesnt really or actually, virtually owning it !!
Dream on....

Tuesday, August 02, 2005

My Gwen....



Hey, she's my Hollerback Gal....!

Well, this time, I've really fallen in love with her. No longer that big butted Jennifer Lopez or the big headed Jennifer Love Hewitt. This time round, its Gwen Stefeni. She's a total replica of Madonna when she was younger. I've actually started liking her when she was with No Doubt - Dun speak. But it never occur to me that she's going to be the same girl that will swoop me of my feet after years. I was at her concert then. I can stil vividly remembered her pony tail bouncing and her smile never left her sweet lips as she energetically dance to her every song from that album.

This time round, I really found out wat had really make me fallen head over heels with this Hollerback gerl. It's her 2 songs. I found it to be really sexy. In Hollerback Gal, she is a cheerleader. It suits her bouncy hair and the sweet sexy lips... Then, I came across the Music video for "Cool". Boy, this song really makes me have the hots fer her... She is damn Georgeous and Sexy... the pouty lips and that sexy legs... Ish!
But I must really admit that this is purely an infactuation and never have I dream to be with her, in bed scene and neither in my figment imagination. Cos my Gwen Stefeni is now 6 months pregnant and she will always be my Gwen Forever..... Every inch of it...
*wink!


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Cool isn't it to befriend your ex-bf/gf? I mean, we sould just put our past and differences aside. I know that its not easy. Really not easy to see them as our friend now when we use to care and to love them. When suddenly the role changes and we are only friends now, the boundary in the relationship had widen and the gap has proves to be the biggest hurdle to overcome. But if u look at it in a different perspectives, I would rather have them as friends then to live without them at all, since we had love them and they have been a part of our life. Why dun we just forgive and forget and kiss and make up...?

Here's something that you should listen to....



Gwen Stefani - Cool

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It's hard to remember how it felt before
Now I found the love of my life...
Passes things get more comfortable
Everything is going right

And after all the obstacles
It's good to see you now with someone else
And it's such a miracle that you and me are still good friends
After all that we've been through
I know we're cool

We used to think it was impossible
Now you call me by my new last name
Memories seem like so long ago
Time always kills the pain

Remember Harbor Boulevard
The dreaming days where the mess was made
Look how all the kids have grown
We have changed but we're still the same
After all that we've been through
I know we're cool


And I'll be happy for you
If you can be happy for me
Circles and triangles, and now we're hangin' out with your new
girlfriend
So far from where we've been
I know we're cool

Monday, August 01, 2005

Breakfast in the garden.

I have been wanting to bring wifey and baby for morning breakfast in the garden for a long time. The first thing in mind that I had was Botanical Gardens. I thought that it would be a good place to be having the first meal of the day. But If it's gonna be that, then it would mean that I have to prepare breakfast. You see, in botanic garden, they do not have any McDonald's breakfast or any "quick and no hassle" cafe for a hearthy meal. But it would be really a romantic moment to have breakfast there. Or any other meal of the day...Maybe I'll have noon picnic there on weekdays. I mean, the place is far, at the back of my mind, until I mention it now. Hehehe!!! Wifey, you will experience it soon I hope .... * I am not really an Ace when it comes to preparing a meal...
To make long story short, we had our breakfast at West Coast Mcdonalds. The place is really adorable. So much better then East Coast. Lets make the comparison. In East Coast, you will see
the surfers bods and the place is more lively with the surfers wannabe, rather then the chirpy birdies.
Let me bring u and explore the ideal beach breakfast.
A nice outdoor cafe with shades to shelter you from the sun. Nice, weet aroma of freshly brewed coffee with a pile of pancake smeared with golden brown honey. Toast and freshly squeezed orange juice. The sound of the wave crashing by the beach with white bubble on the fine white sand. One in awhile, laughter from some kids playing by the water break the orthodox silence. That's wat I called a beach breakfast.
But East Coast breakfast at the McDonald's just doesnt promise me anything like that. The closest that it gave us, is the warm pancake and a maple syrup, on a styrafoam platter.
Now, West Coast....
Let me describe the place first. In the morning, there are hardly 15 seats taken. The staffs are eager to serve you and show off their potential politeness just to impress the co-workers. After getting urself seated, you will be greeted by the musky smell from the drying, wet grasses around. Plenty of greeneries and blue sky to go around. Bright sunlight that warm the misty atmosphere, preparing nature to provide.
Honking of cars? Nothing.
Sitting by the patio, the speakers were playing jazz songs of Micleal Buble (bublay). Morning breakfast can never be more calming then wat i had experience today...